To hate or denigrate our family is to hate on ourselves which has the unanticipated effect of lowering our self-confidence, creating a perception of unworthiness, and promoting illness. When we loathe our blood family for the traumas they have inflicted, we also cast ourselves out and loathe ourselves because our flesh and bones come from them. They are a part of us.
Are you beating yourself up for not “doing enough”? For not getting through everything on your to-do list? Are you giving 100% while mad at yourself that your 100% doesn’t look like even more?