In this article, I share my story of finding my way out of reactivity to understanding and the 6 key takeways that we can all use, whether in a state of meditative bliss or upset and emotionally raw, to calm down our reactivity, frustration, or anger enough to be more open and aware with others.
Are you beating yourself up for not “doing enough”? For not getting through everything on your to-do list? Are you giving 100% while mad at yourself that your 100% doesn’t look like even more?
One of my favorite quotes is by Robert Heller, which is “Fear is excitement without breath” which simply means that the experience of fear and the experience of excitement are almost exactly the same. The only thing that separates them is mindfulness around the experiences. When we are excited and forget to breathe deep into the experience our excitement can turn into fear. Likewise, when we are scared about something, if we can be present with our feelings and breathe into the experience, our fear can turn into excitement.