Transitions are an inevitable part of life, from the transitions to adulting, marriage, gaining or losing children, andro- and menopause, mid (or not so mid-) life crises, divorce and break-ups, losing a job, career transitions, graduating, losing a loved (or not so loved) one, a health diagnosis, moving, and so much more.
Every transition is an opportunity for growth and every transition carries with it the heaviness of change and loss, even the transitions we are excited about.
Transitions require no less than the willingness to symbolically die, to sit in discomfort and uncertainty, and finally to be reborn.
The more we resist letting go, the more difficult the transition becomes.
You may be in such a situation that you have no choice but to change and are seeking support because of the intense emotional (or even physical) pain, anger, grief, sadness, and heart-wrenching ripping that you are experiencing.
Or perhaps you are past that and simply numb, stuck, uncertain, disoriented, confused, and have absolutely no clue where to go from here but know that you must go.
Or perhaps you are seeking transition. You feel like everyone else is moving forward except you. You know you deserve more in your life and can’t figure out what that “more” is or how to get to it. Fear, doubt, self-blame, worry, and negative self-talk have held you back long enough. Now is your time.
I’ve been where you’ve been, through my own transitions and moved from crisis to transformation. I am here to help you befriend the unknown, reclaim your power, and step into what you are here to do. Work with me as your Crisis to Transformation Coach has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Our time together is time-limited. You have shit to do and I have other people to reach. I want you to live your life to its fullest, make the most of this transition, and come out of your crisis transformed, engaged, and excited to step into who you are now.
The Crisis to Transformation
Phase 1: Letting Go
During this phase you separate from your old life and who you were until now. You grieve your losses. You must let go of what has been weighing you down to step into what is next.
Phase 2: Healing
This is the uncomfortable though oh so exciting phase where you stand between your two lives – detached from your old life but the new one not yet hatched.
Phase 3: Rebirth
Now you discover and embody your hidden potential. You embrace your new life and identity and feel confident, comfortable, and excited about the possibilities of growth that this new beginning holds.
“Every process involves breaking something up. The earth must be broken to bring forth life. If the seed does not die, there is no plant. Bread results from the death of wheat. Life lives on lives.”
– Joseph Campbell
Phase 1: Letting Go
Often in transition we are so stressed and anxious that we struggle to slow down, to see what is in front of us. Our nervous system is so upregulated that dropping into the moment to regroup seems nearly impossible. But regrouping and grounding we must. Times of transition require us to reset; to press pause on our lives. With mindfulness practices, you take back control over your nervous system so that you can be in more allowance during this time of transition which is what is required to begin problem solving and to claim who you are now.
Only from a place of awareness and ease can come the knowledge of what it is time for you to choose to let go of, beyond what is outside of your control to lose. We explore what you are ready to release, what you are ready to transform, and what no longer serves you. We review the key areas of your life and see what’s working well and what’s important to who you are now.
All crises are held in our nervous system and in our subconscious. Through Brain Spotting, parts work, and other therapeutic interventions, we release the hold the crisis has over your mental and emotional state. I support you to track your own body’s guidance as we unwind the grief, the crisis, the pain, and the stuck energy from your body through shamanic practices and energy-based somatic practices, including Medical Qigong so that you can finally move forward, free from being weighed down.
Phase 2: Healing
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? …Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do…. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson
Transitions are a time to call yourself home, to reconnect with your soul’s purpose, and move into who you are now whole and current. Sometimes the reason why we have difficulty finding ourselves or our way to move forward is because an essential part of ourselves is essentially stuck in a past trauma, loss, heartbreak, accident, fight, illness or other challenging situation that caused a part of us to splinter off from ourselves in protection, what some cultures have described as “soul fragmentation”. This can cause us to not feel fully like ourselves, like we are “missing something,” but can’t quite put our finger on what it is that is different. Alternately, sometimes, we know we lost our bravery, our spark, our artistic side, or something else and are left feeling depressed, isolated, lost, in loss, meaninglessness, and lack of motivation. Together we will track the places where you’ve split off from yourself, which may not be from the current crisis at hand, and with gentle guidance, invite those pieces to reintegrate with you through shamanic practices of contact with the unseen world and with your own guidance through hypnotherapy and guided meditation.
I will direct you to connect with your own inner wisdom that knows all you have been through already and what you are ready for now as a fully embodied and whole being. Here you will release the fears of who you are now ready to step into. Together we will discover and unwind your unconscious patterns that threaten to limit your transformation through cognitive behavior therapy, dream work, and journaling.
Now is the time we uncover your strengths, passions, and what magically makes you, you now – your superpowers and unique secret sauce, and you vision out what you want now that you are who you are now. What you really, actually want now. I observe the gap between what you “say you want” and what you are actually doing to achieve what you want, and then we make a plan to close that gap, step-by-step, moment-to-moment, and through ceremony and ritual you prepare yourself for rebirth.
Phase 3: rebirth
As your coach, I am your advocate and root for you, believe in you, hold you accountable to your vision, and help you identify and create the life you are meant to be living all while supporting you past the roadblocks to your living your success. With my guidance, you will implement your plan of action, get results, refine your actions, implement, get results, refine your actions over and over until finally you are where you want to be and fully embodying your soul’s purpose.
We will do more body-centered, somatic practices together to integrate and anchor into your being who you are now. You are forever changed and can never return to who you were before the crisis, before the transition and would never want to.